You know that head-in-a-pressure-cooker kind of feeling we moms get sometimes? Those Mommy-needs-a-time-out moments where the murky lens of stress is creating internal chaos everywhere you turn? If you *don’t* know what I mean, please share those secrets, Momma.
But if you do visit that crazy space in your mind from time to time, you are certainly not alone. I talk with great moms all the time who frustratingly describe those wits-end moments, and one thing that I find consistently is that from that crazy-making space moms (myself included) end up making choices that they later regret to some degree. The demands of mothering are intense, and we are only human; so, a temporary Mom escape plan can be so invaluable to everyone in the house.
To that end, I have to share one of my favorite projects this spring. It’s a place where dirt is not only welcome but scientifically proven to increase health and wellbeing. Some days it’s the tranquil bridge back to sanity, as I remind myself that breathing is the first and only order of business.
My “edible balcony” is not just where Greek oregano, rosemary, and aromatic basil flourish in hand painted terra cotta marked by my kids’ colorful handprints. It’s my “escape balcony” too: from work, from kiddie demands, and from the relentless need to “adult” in my life.
I don’t own gardening gloves. Instead, I dig my hands deep into the cool stuff and become a kid again. All my edibles are potted and arranged next to other potted compatibles; so, maintenance is lower than it would be in a traditional garden. A cement bird feeder has been repurposed as a fairy garden for my daughters. Strawberry plants provide landscaping there. There are peppers, cucumbers, tomatoes, zucchini, squash, sweet potatoes and (my favorite) chocolate mint. Here, I meditate, contemplate or just unwind over a cup of hot green matcha.
👧🏾👧🏽👶🏽Today I welcomed my kids into my sanctuary so we could discuss the virtues of daily getting our hands dirty. Research suggests that exposure to uncontaminated soil can elevate mood, increase vitality, decrease anxiety, and increase the ability to learn new tasks. Plus, it’s just fun and relaxing. So, yes, I do share my Mommy sanctuary with the family SOMETIMES. So long as everyone knows to respect those sacred Mommy time outs. 😌🙏
The business of “momming” is not for the faint of heart. And choosing to escape periodically can make us better moms on the whole. Gardening is not for everyone. So, how do you escape and unwind in a pinch? Let us know in comments. If you don’t have a escape plan yet. What would it look like? And when would NOW be a good time to start?
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